I don't know that I would call it 100% cheating right off the bat..I would DEFINITELY say that it's going to cause trust issues.
Going into the chat room without asking the spouse first is going make those problems worse and create trust issues that are going to be difficult, if not impossible, to overcome.
Ultimately, I say don't do it unless your spouse is ok with it. If he in anyway implied that it HAD to be someone ELSE to 'chat' with, not ME, I start looking for some marriage counseling to see if there is a problem and what to do about it.
I feel there are obviously issues in your relationship that need discussing and why does he or she feels it's ok to do this.
The very thought that my spouse is or would be doing this would upset me very much. Even if he just found someone to talk to and did nothing else.
I don't consider visiting the site cheating, but it would make me concerned why he needs to visit a site to find someone to talk to.
Talking to someone on a dating site could lead to cheating, especially since people are there to find a romantic interest.To me couples should do everything they do as if their significant other were right their next to them. But IMO, with thousands of NON-dating sites available to 'chat' on, I would deem his choice of a DATING site, highly suspicious. IMO, people throw away marriages all too readily these days.So in this situation, if the man is sitting at the computer chatting with "friends" on a dating website and his partner is sitting right next to him and sees what he is doing and is okay with it, then its okay. That behavior would definitely raise a red flag for me.No wonder it’s so hard to determine when you’ve crossed the line. Sometimes we hide things—site memberships, passwords, innocent interactions with attractive colleagues or friends—not because we’re doing anything questionable, but because we want to make things easier on ourselves in case we want to do something questionable in the future. Every time you interact, are there subtle shifts in how that relationship feels?There may not be an approved checklist for what qualifies as cheating, but here are some questions that will help clarify the issue for yourself: Do you know what your partner’s expectations are? If not—if you think they’re unreasonable for your present stage in the relationship—the two of you are overdue for a conversation to spell out what you consider appropriate and inappropriate behavior. If this sounds familiar, you might not be cheating at the moment, but you’re open to the opportunity. Is it progressing toward something that is not entirely platonic in nature, and do you find yourself looking forward to each progressive step before it occurs? Would you be uncomfortable if your partner acted the way you do?I never cried over him after that point and filed for divorce as soon as I was able!